boys can look cheap, girls should look expensive

Once upon a time I was this naive little girl, thinking that "down to earth" girls are more likable. I tried so hard to conceal what I liked (expensive bags), and pretended I like cheap food (junk food), and visit cheap places (aka spend next to no money). Guess what kind of boys I attracted? Cheap boys.

You see, this is part of the law of attraction. The only people who will appreciate you being so "affordable", are going to be those who can't afford it. The boys who appreciate girls who are down to earth and spend no money, are the boys either without money, or not willing to spend money. Why? Cuz they don't think you're worth it, as simple as that.

Why are girls taught to be "cheap", and look "cheap"? Sure, you might attract more people (quantity) if you look super approachable and affordable, but think about the quality of the people you attract? Probably low too.

Just to clarify- I'm not trying to objectify women by using the word affordable. It's just short for "afford to initiate a date".

So the next time some shames you for looking "expensive", or reminding them of dates they can't afford, simply be glad that your expensive look is your firewall. You looking expensive can filter out loser boys, either those with no ability, no drive, or no respect. The boys who truly respect girls, will take action that show that you're worth it, and your time is worth it.

Is it worth it: Alaska Airlines Mileage Purchase

So, it starts with a story of a naive little girl seeing this blogpost about Alaska Airline mileage program and how good it is etc etc. She then managed to break into her little piggy bank, take lots of money out, and buy mileage when it’s not even at its optimal purchase point. You all know how the story goes. She regrets her purchase.

Let’s do the math here. The girl managed to purchase the below with $1448.56:

Miles Purchased:	49000
Bonus Miles:	19600
Total Miles:	68600

She then managed to get (redeem) a one way ticket from LA to Shanghai (with Osaka as a transfer destination in between), for almost all of those points. When we think about it logically, she basically bought a ONE-WAY ticket for almost $1500, even though she could probably get a round trip economy ticket with that price. (She even paid an extra $26 of fees).

• MISTAKE #1: Cherry didn’t wait for the optimal purchase time with more bonus points. 40% seems to be an all year round “special promo” that’s really not that special.

• MISTAKE #1a: Cherry didn’t wait for optimal purchase times like Black Friday or Cyber Monday.
• She naively thought that flight ticket would NEVER be on sale, even during Black Friday and Cyber Monday. WRONG. She bought the tickets the night before Cyber Monday, which turned out to be a big mistake, since Expedia had great sales on Cyber Monday. $200 off round trip tickets (hey!). Expedia had $800 something roundtrip (economy) tickets from LAX-PVG at the time, and with $200 off of that…. Omg…. what a loss.

• MISTAKE #2: Cherry didn’t check the conversion between SPG and Alaska Airlines.
• The conversion used to be great! 1:1, as claimed by major blog posts like the points guy. Apparently, that was still the case earlier in the year, say, August 2018. Too bad it’s not the case now (November 2018). It’s now 3:1. Cherry thought she was so rich with her 100K SPG points. Too bad it only translated to 30K in the end. Not enough for even one single business ticket. Sad, sad, sad.

• MISTAKE #3: Cherry miscalculated the time it took for the mileage purchase to come through and the SPG transfer purchase to come through.
• The mileage purchase, surprisingly, took more than a couple days to complete. It’s pretty counterintuitive since it should be a SIMPLE PURCHASE, but as with everything Alaska does in my experience, EVERYTHING IS DELAYED. In addition, the mileage transfer takes even longer. It’s been well over a week since the points have been deducted from my SPG account, and the mileage is STILL NOT in my Alaska account. STILL NOT. [Even tried calling them, waiting on the line like a hopeful little kid and oops, of course there's nothing they can do.] Well… can someone explain to me, why I ever initiated that transfer. So guess what Cherry’s current situation is? She bought her one way ticket to Osaka and Shanghai, and did not buy a return ticket. (How will she come back, or will she ever…) The current price on Expedia, for an Economy ticket from PVG (Shanghai) to LAX (Los Angeles) is $308. Not much yeah. But how about those useless mileage transfer? If she doesn’t use them, they’ll probably devalue.

Rule of thumb #1: most, if not all points eventually devalue over time since companies will not be willing to bring up even more cost on money they already received. It’s always wise to use up points ASAP especially when the redemption or conversion looks like a good deal.

Rule of thumb #2: good deals don’t last (period).

• Of course, that’s not the end of Cherry’s first points-hunting mileage-seeking experience full of mistakes. There’s more to come. Promise me you won’t make the same mistake. Till next time, peace.

About Productivity

All this time we keep hearing about the important of productivity and so-called productivity hacks.

I seriously tried to absorb all those info like sponge(bob), yet, when the time is not ready, when I'm not ready, none of these productivity hacks helped. Yeah everyone says executives and successful people meditate and wake up 5 am in the morning to work on the most important tasks, read a ton of books and work out regularly. We know the drill, we all do. Yet, how many of use truly, follow those hacks?

We all know the important of sleep, and how sleeping earlier is good for your brain and health in general, yet, how many people can ACTUALLY sleep before 10 pm, consecutively, for just a month?

My point is, all these productivity hacks are absolutely useless. Stop reading them over and over again, because you'd just be wasting time. When you're not ready to absorb those info like sponge(bob), you're just not gonna be ready. Yeah sure, you might be able to change your routine for the first, one, two, or three days, with your initial burst of motivation. But, how about after that? Do you think you'd still be able to continue after that, and make those productivity hacks part of your routine? I highly doubt it. Been there, done that.

So what should you do? You may ask.

My perspective is that forcing yourself to change a habit would never, ever be successful. All these people who turned their life over, had a tipping point moment. Let it me some horrible health issues, a car accident, a loved one passing away, etc. It's something major. It's something external that pushed them to make the change in their life. If nothing major happens in your life, you're not going to have enough motivation to make the change. Some people lose 15 pounds in a month due to a breakup. The 15 pounds is their drastic change, and the tipping point is the breakup. Do you think they'd be able to lose that 15 pounds without the breakup, the tipping point? Nah, I doubt it.

Instead of reading all these "chicken soup stories for your soul", or those motivational stories and memoirs, why don't you spend the time to do whatever the hell you want to do. Let it be scrolling through reddit aimlessly, or binge-watching Netflix, or scrolling through the end of your Instagram feed. There's no shame in that. Really. I mean, don't you already do those things even with the mindset of creating the chance in your life everyday? Don't you already try so hard to stay away from "bad habits", but find yourself falling into those "traps" each and every day? So, what's the point of giving yourself feelings of guilt and shame, if these "traps" are just meant to be there, meant for your to fall into them before the tipping point of your life?

If you're not ready, you just won't be. So quit trying. Quit feeling bad. Quit giving yourself guilt. Just live life as it is and be as happy as you can.

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