boys can look cheap, girls should look expensive

Once upon a time I was this naive little girl, thinking that "down to earth" girls are more likable. I tried so hard to conceal what I liked (expensive bags), and pretended I like cheap food (junk food), and visit cheap places (aka spend next to no money). Guess what kind of boys I attracted? Cheap boys.

You see, this is part of the law of attraction. The only people who will appreciate you being so "affordable", are going to be those who can't afford it. The boys who appreciate girls who are down to earth and spend no money, are the boys either without money, or not willing to spend money. Why? Cuz they don't think you're worth it, as simple as that.

Why are girls taught to be "cheap", and look "cheap"? Sure, you might attract more people (quantity) if you look super approachable and affordable, but think about the quality of the people you attract? Probably low too.

Just to clarify- I'm not trying to objectify women by using the word affordable. It's just short for "afford to initiate a date".

So the next time some shames you for looking "expensive", or reminding them of dates they can't afford, simply be glad that your expensive look is your firewall. You looking expensive can filter out loser boys, either those with no ability, no drive, or no respect. The boys who truly respect girls, will take action that show that you're worth it, and your time is worth it.